Hm.
That point in pregnancy when people usually respond with some variation of "So, wow--the baby could really come any time!"
I've heard that before.
I think it makes the next several weeks seem awfully long. Because I know from experience that I could be pregnant for quite awhile yet!
On the other hand, it's good to be ready just in case baby does come early-ish.
So, I've washed up a little bit of pink and a little bit of blue and the handful of gender-neutral little bitty things that I've accumulated over the years of having babies.
Even though this is my tenth baby, there are still a lot of "new" things for me.
For one, planning to have the baby at home. All the other children have been born in a hospital; eight under obstetrical care in our local hospital and #9 was with a midwife in a different hospital. It's new to me to know that I won't have to stress about when to make the decision of when to leave for the hospital. Everyone scares you with their stories of women having babies in the car, and how you'd better run to the hospital at the first twinge because after one or two babies, you know, they just practically fall right out. Except they don't.
So, what I'm getting at is that I think it will take some of the pressure off of me knowing that I only need to call the midwife and she comes to me and all I'll need to do is keep laboring until the baby is in my arms.
Another "new" is a new midwife. I had to search around a bit for recommendations because there are no midwives near where we live. This woman is located about an hour and fifteen minutes away from me. I'm very pleased with our relationship thus far and hopefully I get to continue my care with her for many years.
Also "new" is a different doula. My wonderful friend Megan assisted at both Ivy's and Elizabeth's births. What a wonderful help a doula is!!! I had never had the help of one before and would highly recommend one for any pregnant woman. Another friend Sarah will be with us this time. It's new, but exciting.
I have all the birth things ready now and that was a new process for me. My midwife recommended this site and I ordered what I needed from there. (I didn't order a "kit" because I already had accumulated several things from the list my midwife gave me, so I just ordered the items I didn't already have.)
Going through the process of having these things on hand at home made me realize that it would have been a good idea to have an Emergency Birth Kit on hand for the other babies. Especially since we live very rurally and the nearest hospital is 30 minutes away; also, several of the babies have been born during the time of year when weather could have been a travel factor here in MN. For $12, really, every pregnant woman should have one of these kits. Maybe those car-birthers wouldn't have been so freaked out if they'd had one! :) I feel it would take a bit of the scariness out of an unassisted birth knowing you had the right tools at hand.
Another "new" is making the decisions for me and the baby based off of things that I've learned, as opposed to just "letting" the clinic/hospital staff tell me it needs to be done. I may post about some of them in the future, I'm not sure yet, but for brevity here those decisions include the Gestational Diabetes screen, ultrasound, Group B strep culture, Vitamin K for baby, erythromycin in baby's eyes, cord clamping, etc.
One last "new" thing I'll mention: Dennis looked at me last week and asked, "Are you sure you're gonna make it another month??" To which I responded, "Thank you for noticing!!!" It's the first time that he's ever commented on my pregnant-size so it struck me funny.
Some women may have felt offended, but not me--I've felt so big for so long, bigger than with the other children, that I keep wondering the same thing!
That's all the "new" news I have for now...it won't be too much longer and I can show you pictures of a little someone new!
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ReplyDeleteAwesome update! Hather is also a doula and I'm not sure I would have had such easy, great births without her. Having a doula is so worth it. An it helps she was my sister and took pictures, helped with breast feeding and was just awesome! Can't wait to hear all about baby #10 and the home birth process. I have a few friends who have birthed at home too and say nothing but fabulous things about it! Best wishes...oh and I didn't think you looked that big when I saw you last Friday night, honestly.
ReplyDeleteYou're sweet, Salena.
DeletePraying for a happy healthy birth for my newest niece or nephew.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Jenn!
DeletePerhaps #10 AND #11? :)
ReplyDeleteHahaha!! Wouldn't THAT be something!
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