If you know me or have read my blog for awhile (or both), you'll recall that I was "overdue" with Elizabeth.
Going beyond one's due date is difficult; each day seems like three and the barrage of inquiries regarding induction is overwhelming. Random people question the status of your cervix. It's is downright unfathomable to me how that becomes such an acceptable topic of conversation. Seriously, people.
As I await this newest wee one, I thought to address the topic of going overdue. Since when I use my own words I often get in trouble, I will direct you to four links, all from the same blog.
As a disclaimer, I don't agree with all the beliefs of the blog's authors in case you find yourself searching around the site a bit. That said, I have found so much good information there.
The first is Why Pregnancy Due Dates are Inaccurate. This post explains why not all pregnancies are 40 weeks because all women are different and so are their babies. There is no concrete way to determine how long a pregnancy should or will be.
The second is like the first: The Lie of the Estimated Due Date: Why Your Due Date Is Not What You Think. Interestingly, even ACOG itself (American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists) does not recommend interfering with a normal pregnancy before 42 completed weeks. So why are doctors pushing inductions at 37 and 38 weeks? It baffles me.
The third one to which I link is Wanting to Induce, Hospital Sends Police to "Overdue" Pregnant Mother. I had read this post a few weeks before Elizabeth was born. When the hospital started breathing down my midwife's neck about "when that 43-week-er was ever going to come in to have her baby", this article/situation was forefront on my mind. (I wasn't 43 weeks--"they" didn't believe me and wouldn't accept my dates. Let's just say it didn't exactly create a warm, trusting atmosphere.) .Hospitals and their administrations have amazing, far-reaching authority over the rights of the people who sign themselves into their care. I knew it wouldn't be a stretch to think they could "make me" have my baby. The thought of that still makes me cringe.
The fourth is long, but worth the read. Fish Can't See Water: The Need to Humanize Birth I have read a couple of Marsden Wagner's books and several others in which he has been interviewed. Again, though I don't necessarily agree with everything he says, he makes so many good points regarding birth in general and specifically in America. You may remember him from his part in The Business of Being Born, which I highly recommend everyone watch, pregnant or not. (And now as I link to it, I see there is MORE Business of Being Born??!!!! Guess what I'll be watching tonight??!! Awesome.)
I have no idea when this baby will be born. For such a planner as I, not knowing whether it will be tomorrow or four weeks from now is a real test of my patience. But I know that letting baby come when he/she is ready is best for baby, and for me, too.
So if I do go "overdue", please go easy on me. It's hard enough going "over" and it's made even more difficult when people are so judgmental of the decisions I make regarding my baby and my body.
We are very excited to meet this little baby, as are the other children.
Thank you to those are happy with us and for us!